0)return}if(n++<40)setTimeout(g,120)}g();window.addEventListener('load',function(){setTimeout(function(){window.__goto&&__goto("+(+j.ch)+","+(+j.si||0)+")},50)})})();";
else sc="(function(){var want="+(+j.pg||0)+",n=0,stop=false;['wheel','touchstart','keydown','mousedown'].forEach(function(ev){window.addEventListener(ev,function(){stop=true},{passive:true})});function g(){if(stop)return;var t=document.querySelectorAll('.sheet,.gpage')[want];if(t){var y=t.getBoundingClientRect().top+window.pageYOffset;window.scrollTo(0,Math.max(0,y-20))}if(n++<40)setTimeout(g,200)}g();window.addEventListener('load',g)})();";
var tag=''+sc+'',i=h.lastIndexOf('');return i<0?h+tag:h.slice(0,i)+tag+h.slice(i)}
function url(k){if(!urls[k])urls[k]=URL.createObjectURL(new Blob([text(k)],{type:'text/html'}));return urls[k]}
function key(f,k){try{var w=f.contentWindow;w.dispatchEvent(new w.KeyboardEvent('keydown',{key:k,bubbles:true}))}catch(e){}}
var vb=$('#vbody'),vw=$('#viewer');
var FILES={};
function open(k,ch,pg,si){if(FILES[k]&&TXT[k]===undefined){vw.classList.add('on');document.body.classList.add('locked');var ld=vb.querySelector('.vload');if(ld){ld.style.display='';ld.innerHTML='Loading…'}
fetch(FILES[k]).then(function(r){if(!r.ok)throw 0;return r.text()}).then(function(t){TXT[k]=t.replace(/<\/script/gi,'Still loading — this file is large.
'},6000);vb.appendChild(f);f.srcdoc=text(k,jmp)}else go()}
function close(){tourStop();vw.classList.remove('tour');vw.classList.remove('on');document.body.classList.remove('locked');paused=false;cur=null}
/* ---------- play the sample: gold tiles pop out, then the sample slides run on their own ---------- */
var TOUR=[],tourT=null,tourK=0,vAuto=$('#vAuto');
[].forEach.call(dm.querySelectorAll('.dcol'),function(c){[].forEach.call(c.querySelectorAll('.tile.smp'),function(t){TOUR.push({ch:+c.dataset.ch,si:+t.dataset.si})})});
TOUR.sort(function(a,b){return a.ch-b.ch||a.si-b.si});
function tourStop(){clearTimeout(tourT);tourT=null;vAuto.classList.remove('on');vAuto.classList.add('stop');if(vw.classList.contains('tour'))vAuto.querySelector('span').textContent='Paused · ▶ resume';tourBtns()}
function tourBtns(){$('#vPrev').disabled=tourK<=0;$('#vNext').disabled=tourK>=TOUR.length-1}
function tourGo(k){var w=tourWin();if(!w)return;tourK=Math.max(0,Math.min(TOUR.length-1,k));w.__goto(TOUR[tourK].ch,TOUR[tourK].si);try{frames.deck.focus()}catch(e){}tourBtns();
if(tourT){clearTimeout(tourT);tourT=setTimeout(tourNext,TOUR[tourK].si?4500:3500)}}
$('#vPrev').addEventListener('click',function(){tourGo(tourK-1)});$('#vNext').addEventListener('click',function(){tourGo(tourK+1)});
function tourWin(){var f=frames.deck;try{return f&&f.contentWindow&&f.contentWindow.__adv?f.contentWindow:null}catch(e){return null}}
function tourNext(){var w=tourWin();if(!w||cur!=='deck'){tourStop();return}
if(w.__adv()){tourT=setTimeout(tourNext,4500);return}
tourK++;if(tourK>=TOUR.length){tourK=TOUR.length-1;tourT=setTimeout(function(){tourT=null;vAuto.classList.remove('on');vAuto.classList.add('stop');vAuto.querySelector('span').textContent='Sample finished · ▶ play again';tourK=TOUR.length;tourBtns();$('#vPrev').disabled=false},4000);return}
w.__goto(TOUR[tourK].ch,TOUR[tourK].si);tourBtns();tourT=setTimeout(tourNext,TOUR[tourK].si?4500:3500)}
function tourBegin(){var n=0;(function wait(){var w=tourWin();
if(!w){if(n++<300)tourT=setTimeout(wait,100);return}
try{var d=frames.deck.contentDocument,stopper=function(){if(tourT)tourStop()};if(!d.__tourHooked){d.__tourHooked=1;d.addEventListener('keydown',stopper,true);d.addEventListener('pointerdown',stopper,true)}}catch(e){}
tourK=0;w.__goto(TOUR[0].ch,TOUR[0].si);tourBtns();tourT=setTimeout(tourNext,3500)})()}
function tourPlay(){if(!TOUR.length)return;tourStop();tourK=0;vw.classList.add('tour');vAuto.classList.remove('stop');vAuto.querySelector('span').textContent='Playing the sample · tap to pause';vAuto.classList.add('on');
open('deck',TOUR[0].ch,0,TOUR[0].si);tourBegin()}
vAuto.addEventListener('click',function(){if(tourT){tourStop();try{frames.deck.focus()}catch(e){}return}
if(tourK>=TOUR.length||!tourWin()){tourPlay();return}
vAuto.classList.remove('stop');vAuto.classList.add('on');vAuto.querySelector('span').textContent='Playing the sample · tap to pause';tourT=setTimeout(tourNext,2500)});
function popTiles(done){var ts=[].slice.call(dm.querySelectorAll('.tile.smp')),cx=innerWidth/2,cy=innerHeight/2,last=0;
if(!ts.length||matchMedia('(prefers-reduced-motion:reduce)').matches||!document.body.animate){done();return}
ts.forEach(function(t,k){var r=t.getBoundingClientRect(),g=document.createElement('div');g.className='popt';
g.style.cssText='left:'+r.left+'px;top:'+r.top+'px;width:'+r.width+'px;height:'+r.height+'px';document.body.appendChild(g);
var dx=cx-(r.left+r.width/2),dy=cy-(r.top+r.height/2),dl=k*55;last=Math.max(last,dl);
g.animate([{transform:'none',opacity:1},{transform:'translate(0,-10px) scale(1.6)',opacity:1,offset:.35},{transform:'translate('+dx+'px,'+dy+'px) scale(5)',opacity:0}],{duration:850,delay:dl,easing:'cubic-bezier(.5,0,.3,1)',fill:'both'}).onfinish=function(){g.remove()}});
setTimeout(done,last+620)}
lg.addEventListener('click',function(e){var b=e.target.closest('.lgsmp');if(!b)return;lgShow(lgB.indexOf(b));popTiles(tourPlay)});
document.addEventListener('keydown',function(e){if((e.key==='Enter'||e.key===' ')&&e.target.matches&&e.target.matches('.cimg[data-open]')){e.preventDefault();e.target.click()}});
document.addEventListener('click',function(e){var b=e.target.closest('[data-open]');if(b){e.preventDefault();open(b.dataset.open,+b.dataset.ch||0,+b.dataset.pg||0)}});
$('#vPrint').addEventListener('click',function(){var f=frames[cur];try{f.contentWindow.focus();f.contentWindow.print()}catch(e){}});
$('#vClose').addEventListener('click',close);
document.addEventListener('keydown',function(e){if(e.key==='Escape'&&cur)close()});
$('#vNew').addEventListener('click',function(){if(!cur)return;var w=window.open('','_blank');if(w){w.document.open();w.document.write(text(cur,jmp));w.document.close()}else{window.open(url(cur),'_blank')}});
$('#vSave').addEventListener('click',function(){if(!cur)return;if(cur==='ho'&&window.__cupShare){window.__cupShare(true);return}var a=document.createElement('a');a.href=url(cur);a.download=SRC[cur].f;document.body.appendChild(a);a.click();a.remove()});
})();
Part of the full course
This sample opens a few pieces of each part, ringed in gold. The rest comes with the full course.
You knew exactly what to say. Then the conversation started.
Not calm. In control.
Most training tells you what to say. This one explains why you can’t say it when it counts, and gives you six hours to practice until you can. Pressure pushes people up into heat or down into cold. Everything that works happens in the band in between.
You’ll leave able to:
Spot your exit, heat or cold, before you take it
Separate what you saw from the story you told yourself
Ask instead of guess
Say the hard thing in one sentence you can actually deliver
Read a face as a hypothesis, then check it out loud
Make it hold past Monday with a trigger, a plan and a date
Bring a real conversation you’ve been putting off. You’ll work on it all day with one partner, and leave with it ready.
Built on evidence, honest about its limits. Every claim traces to named research. Small effects are called small. The myths, like “7% words, 55% body language,” get taken apart.
Six chapters · eighteen named skills · six hours
The BandBefore You SpeakSaying ItWatching & AskingMaking It HoldRunning It
For supervisors, managers, team leads, HR, nurses and clinicians, and anyone with one conversation they’ve been putting off.
Led by Sam Buemi, PhD, psychology instructor at Northcentral Technical College, who has trained manufacturers, nonprofits and regional teams for years.